What happens when you marry….[perspective of an Indian]

In india, guys have to earn the bread and when they think they are capable of earning enough pay check amount then they marry of that guy…. And marrying a guy depends on the level of standards of life which they live…

A rickshaw puller marries very early… a multi millionaire marries very late… after dating few… a middle class man marries when he is in middle of something….That’s how things happen in India,….

In india gals get marry very easily… basically the demand supply ratio of gals to boys is pretty bad… gals have more options compared to boys… and parents in India won’t allow female humans to live a long single life… that’s why they don’t even know what they need and how they have to achieve it…might be love, emotional support or responsibility…. Though they learn in due course they are spoon fed and many quit jobs as they prefer staying home. I don’ t say they r not ready to take up a job.. but only few not all…

In my perspective… if u have a gal who is your friend or colleague or a companion.. you both stick together and you both understand each other and you may support each other for both physical and emotional needs…. But, we won’t get such a chance in India gals are considered as a liability which have to be cleared as early as possible… so, as soon as she finishes her studies or during studies they marry her off… she neither knows what she needs nor asks… females are brought up like that u have to blame parents for that…

Ask any lady most of them give this answer for the question why are you studying MS or engineering or something they mostly reply that they were told by their fathers that they will get the same husband or other male who earns more or some NRI…

Now, when you marry a gal she already have a enough amount of friends and social circle around her and she have to sacrifice all those for this new guy rather marrying or living with the one in their group.. they rarely do that… But, in this I have generalized and remember exceptions never make rules… so, gals who read this don’t have to take it into heart as you might be a exception and u stand apart of the crowd…

There are gals who can’t even book their tickets to home in a railway station that dumb they grow their daughters… they can’t ask or decide or demand what they need.. it is a pity….

Now, when a guy marries he welcomes into her life… while she shuts off her life and steps into his.. so now both have to compromise… and miss lot of things… but, her financial dependability makes her stick to him.. Rather than love… which is a recipe for disaster… Now, u r asking her to step into ur life while getting crushed urs and shutting her life in a box and throwing the lock away how sad it is…

It is a bit ambiguous and tuff decision to make… and I am still searching for a solution…..