What is correct with us?

We are always good with what is wrong with us or society and everything else. We are just not graceful to know how lucky we are, to have those special virtues to survive in the society.

How we tackled women empowerment is still an eye opener thing that I noticed. We still can accept women who earn less and as a wife. We [When I speak We it is society] are OK with our wives or sisters to earn more than us. Forget Earning we even let them Learn more than men. And always marry them to a guy who Learned and Earned a lot than them.

Marriage is such a soul mate thing now a days. Now we don’t have dowry at all, we have is token of love and affection. Arranged marriages which used to bitter business deals in olden days, now sugar coated. How Sweet !!

Shopping is a nice thing now a days. We shop for lot of reasons and we do show case that stuff in our homes to everyone. Similarly we get married and showcase each other for a year or so then get fed up or succumb to the partner’s choice or better have kids with no adoptions but helping in keeping the nation young.

Surprised to see women not celebrating birthdays because their husband is not there, I don’t get it?? Your beloved ne is not there that doesn’t meant that you need to sit and mourn or what??? You should have celebrated your past 20 or 25 birthdays without your husband, that’s why I understand this mourning is acceptable.

Emotional need and emotional baggage go in tandem, You should carry less so the need will be less. We always contradict the above statement, as we are from old school. How emotional we are to carry the dead weight. We believe in traditions for sure.

People when they marry, how unbiased they think, I still can’t imagine. The height and weight always matters, not in knowledge for sure. Standards should be met that are set by society or else you are filled with guilt.

People work more and earn the same as inflation is high. Now lot of people don’t know what to do when they are retired which is weird. Some still work rather than doing pursuing something. How down to earth we are. I here by to conclude that machines can never over take us. As we are machines. Now I Can sleep properly that the thought of not being ruled by machines.

We always embrace the change by deceiving it. By never changing in the ideals, but by always changing the appearance of the stands we take. How thoughtful and imaginative we are.

Adopt a kid if you have one. Or else adopt two and avoid having one. Believe in your gut feeling and I am not talking about you narcissists’ because I know what reply you are going to give.

Awesome Mean….

Awesome is used to be just another word in this world. Then suddenly it became LEgendarrryyyyyyyyyy because of Barney and few more people. Today I was googling about the meaning of awesome and its usage. I never thought I will write about a word.

Ok… coming down to the point the word awesome technically or literally means this:

awe·some (ôsm)

adj.

1. Inspiring awe: an awesome thunderstorm.

2. Expressing awe: stood in awesome silence before the ancient ruins.

3. Slang Remarkable; outstanding: "a totally awesome arcade game" (Los Angeles Times).

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awesome·ly adv.

awesome·ness n.

It is an adjective and can be used as adverb or noun too. But recently it’s usage in india has a new meaning which I came to know accidentally. You appreciate someone saying that you are awesome they will feel shy. If you say awesome to a girl in front of her fiancé or would be it may lead to break up as awesome in front of him is like you know I had an affair with her.

If you say it someone in a public meeting then it definitely means you are into her or she is into you. If you keep on saying awesome to appreciate to your female colleagues you are treated as playboy in the office. I never understood when does Awesome became a word that should not be said in public.

My friends always used it as a word to praise somebody not to flirt. I know when to flirt and what to use when you flirt but never thought awesome became a word like that. [Awesome is not equal to u tasted like vanilla]. I still don’t get it how it achieved that status.

With such a progression in the culture, and change in meanings I am left with nothing but use only good, better best only for the coming years. Hope people learn the rightful meaning of what they use. :P. Anyhow unknowingly using this may help you get a false status to keep it up don’t talk much use only high end gre or gmat words you can easily be counted as a guy or girl who is fast in Indian culture. You know what fast means in india.Sometimes using awesome in public makes others think that u r a pervert too... perceptions are pretty dangerous buddy...

I don’t know now the list of non-usable words are piling up… Have fun all….As ignorance is bliss use it for ur own good. Or else try enlightening people.

My 200^th posting needed something like this…

Appealing to EGO—Is Love?

Having aloo paratha with no oil served hot with tomato achar is a delight with a hot tea beside. While eating my mind just flipped through few movies, which led me to initiate the thought process and start the conversation. With my roomie who eventually is the victim. :P of my weird thoughts.

I said that appealing to one’s ego will be the only reason and the cause to fall in love. Or to put it simple, when your ego gets satisfied then you fall in love. It sounded weird to me in the beginning.

Case 1:

Assume you have a guy/girl and you are flirting with him/her and he/she is comfortable with you around and you are trying to impress him/her and which is eventually making him/her comfortable. And now that person being happy in the comfort zone and never leaves. Suddenly one day a person can be opposite sex or the same one, shows up with their attitude.

And as this new person’s attitude is so different from the gang he/she hang’s out. Now, being bored after prolonged stay in the comfort zone, the guy/girl feels that he/she is neglected. So, they now to satisfy their ego, they go around this new person.

And when anybody is doing this they feel the satisfaction by seeing the change in the person’s attitude and growing interest on him/her. This being new to this guy feels that he/she is made for her/him. They propose and live happily ever after.

Conclusion: To be in love you needed to be satisfied with your ego and be at right time in one’s life when they are bored.

Here the ego makes us fall in love.

Case 2:

You both are friends from childhood and living your life happily and felt that you will be happier if you continue this for ever through out your life. So, those two decided to fall in love and continue their journey and they lived happily ever after.

Conclusion: Why can’t they try others? Why did they only stick to themselves? What made them do that? The answer would be the fear of loss. Something they can’t take it. They feel that they both make the better match and don’t depart.

It is like a little cub being in zoo and never taught hunting can never do hunting. So, the fear of not knowing to get food makes it to stay in the zoo. The same logic applies to the above stated category of people too…

Here for those the pain of not changing is less than the pain of changing.

From here me and my roomie argued that as I was only considering hypothetical things and what I talk is bull shit.. Which many may accept also…. :D

Case 3:

Now the third type is the people who are in dire need of emotional support or anything. Some times when you are wounded all you search is for a shrine. But, shrine can’t be a home. Home becomes a shrine. But, shrine can never become a home.

Based on the above statement what I try to pull out is, when you are in need of something, and somebody provides you with that. You will be thankful and can return their help in future in whatever form they needed rather than that what do us eventually do is to go fall in love with them and continue our lives with them.

As mentioned earlier the need is temporary one have to evaluate options before going in for a commitment. Being thankful is not love. And instead of repaying we end up committed to wrong person ruining both lives.

Conclusion: When you are out of relationship you weave everything of your life with that person and when that person quits you don’t want to hang in vacuum so you catch hold of a helping and live there.

Here the fear of not having anything leads them to fall in love.

Case 4:

As I am not writing a book anything as of now, I will end with this last case. You will be married which is arranged. What one does is to adjust and love the person and it will be same from the other side too. All you have to do is chill and carry on with what you are doing.

Now suddenly one day you find a perfect match for you and you will be more than happy with that person. But, you can’t go with that person as you are entangled in a bond. After pursuing hard I came to know that few are willing to go if the married person is ok with it. And many won’t leave the partner at all if they had kids.

And many condemned the concept that perfect person for me is an absurdity and it will not be there as nobody is perfect. So, my wife or husband is what or whom I love and live with.

Conclusion:

Fear of being blamed by society.

Fear of being not loyal.

Fear of uncertainty. [Assuming that the new person may leave like you who left your family]

Fear of loss of belief.

There is nothing wrong in falling in love with anybody. If that person is in love with another and they both are happy. We shouldn’t have to interfere. Have to just stay on the beaches by not boarding to sail for life with them. Because those two’s egos are appealing to each other.

Emotional need, fear, and many more lead us to fall in love and everybody has their own reason to be in love. And there is nothing wrong with that. Just stick to what ever you do. Once done be happy with it. And stop regretting. That will help us all to lead better lives and have faith on our fellow beings.

Hope this was helpful to judge my title.

The difference between words Friendship and Love…

One day as usual one of my friend who is into a little turbulence in his life messaged me to know my take on this topic:

Q: “Is Friendship so feeble a thing that it has to end sometime and is Love the only ever lasting glory…”

X: “Friendship and Love are not to be defined by the very meaning of it…. It is actually defined by the people who are involved in it. There are friends who stay life long and love that breaks…. It is basically the people who are involved in that make the difference nothing else….”

ME: “when the very definition depends on persons who r in love or friendship then it makes that every person has their own definition of Friendship and Love as they have the power to choose the person in that relation. And their needs and demands give new dimensions to those two words.”

Now Q says that,

Q: “Friendship has got limitations while Love is not… they both are two separate different arenas filled with different kinds of emotions.”

ME: “According to me there is nothing feeble or Glorifying in this world and I condemn the very basic definitions of Love and Friendship. Everything is Perspective in this world. And to me as mentioned above love and friendship are defined by their own needs.

Everybody wants a emotional support, and to have that emotional support we lean on other humans.. and take their support to stand straight in the society… which is built again in a false bubble of expectations and rules… and more materialistic things… while being in a relative world we always compare us with some body else to feel secure about us or our position. Rather than thriving to be ahead on ur own and setting goals on us by us… we always set goals for others and our decisions are influenced by others.

And people call Love a Glory because to satisfy themselves and also the other person to show that they are the higher priorities in their life. So, that ones ego is satisfied. We categorize people based on our needs as Friends and Lovers. And we reveal partially to both of them. We hold secrets to both… and to satisfy the society and our ego and the love’s or friends ego we maintain certain distance among each others…

Nothing ends until or unless we want to end it. Because we have found a better emotional back up or support that satisfies our ego. And sometimes we continue to sail on both boats so that we get the full emotional back up… and to satisfy our ego we lie to people in both relations… Once, the boats sailing together now sail apart. By making it difficult to make the voyage of one’s life any more peaceful. As we keep the keys of our happiness into others hands to satisfy their ego…

Neither Friendship nor Love ends… they are just needs we wanted and proclaimed them by not being fully truthful to us. You cannot blame the other person, if you are not hundred percent truthful and committed to ur relationship with the other person in the relation.

You are always the key to choose…. So, don’t make a wrong choice.”

Actually this chat went one sided… expecting others to continue… here…..

GoD Is InTelLiGenT

See when god created humans [it is both male and female] they were happy and they were intelligent……….then problems started god got jealous of us and he started thinking of what to do to stop us………………….as we may take over him
He can’t restrict us to develop our selves as he also got some set of rules to follow…..[assumption made]

Then suddenly one fine day after centuries of research he found a great solution for keeping us away from working hard to find the secrets to everything he created, as we may out master him…………
And that is called “EMOTIONS”
“EMOTIONS” is a super set including a lot of sub sets which contain anger, love jealousy, friendship, commitments, ………………etc.,,
You may include as many as u can because those are the things which prevent u from working to find some great things……………
The normal characteristics of “EMOTIONS ” can be described in this adjectable way—
‘It is like a never ending aroma from the cucina [kitchen]coming from the best recipe ever made. It just lingers around u and lures you towards it and it will be there for that much amount of time that you will fall prey to that smell which will be provocative and you are distracted towards the recipe that is being made……………
the irony in this twisted tale of the recipe, it is never done with its cooking, which we wish to happen and as we may finish that and go back to our pursuit of finding great things which is left in the amid of nowhere……’

That’s the character of so called emotion. It is the one which causes you have all the sweetest pain when you leave ur beloved ones………………
Making your eyes get wet when u remember some beautiful great moments whih u might have spent with ur again beloved ones……………………..
Getting angry when some body contradicts you……………..
Feeling frustrated and fury when unsatisfied………………..
Romantic moments when u watch ur loved one fallin asleep in ur lap………………..
Tears running down when u fail in something…………………………………
These things happen and these things bond u to this materialistic world and makes u fell better in this comfort zone……………………………………………
While u can still have fair chance to excel……….
That’s why many gr8 people maintain low profile towards EMOITIONS as it might have hurt them so hard that they never feel it and reached the next level of their lives where there is no chance of emotions peeking in, so they do invent a lot and die fast.
Now let me make it clear why people die early as they invent that much and devoid of emotions they should live happily ever after.
As god is much more intelligent than us created emotions such that they co-exist with our achievements, inventions………….
Though people who made them are dry like sahara desert, there wil be no water in sahara similarly people wont have emotions in their life so that makes them feel bad which is again due to emotions as all others are having simple happiness in their remote circle of emotions……………………..


So know after knowing this much what should one prefer die early to life by giving to great things to our fellow beings or just be happy with the simple things in life which come in ur way……………………….
Decide I don’t know which way to go I want to live longer because I want to see this world grow and I have never witnessed war so waiting for that,,,,,,,, I am still tender bud in the garden, so I didn’t have pleasure of love,,,,,,,,,, I didn’t taste the very fine recipes of world……………….i didn’t scold or regulate or play with my child [as I am unmarried I don’t have one till de date],…………….. I didn’t see my beloved die………..i haven’t married till now………………..i don’t have a gal frnd……………I didn’t do any social work ..…I didn’t become politician………I didn’t see a fairy lady……I am not a notable person to remember..…and list goes on…………………..

So this shows that I am still a person dwelling in and around out of emotions. Now I am a person who wanted to be like happily, sadly, angrily, frustratingly, humane………so I decided to be with emotions………………………….i think we all will……………………….

Which is the best aroma ever smelt………………..i am smellin it and I love to be it’s prey……………………….