Folding my sheets

Usually story unfolds but here stories are getting rustling in my sheets. Many a day ago it happened and I was excited and never got a chance to stop the rustling of the stories left in my sheets. It’s happening again and this time i donno whether i am taking time or acting dormant willingly.

Things are going fast. And i don’t know whether i need this thing happening or not. Turbulent were the past times and the times ahead maybe turbulent or serene, either way i am taking the path. My heart is in it’s place while my mind is still playing games. As the prefrontal cortex is in control now my emotional path way is not kicking in as a small baby who gets hurt, later never do the same thing again as the fear being hurt overcomes the joy of the finding something new.

Nascent in me feelings, Thoughts old as a tree, Here i stand not at cross roads but on the road. As the little thing called Hope is still keeping me alive and thriving to take the road and pursue.

Keeping my fingers crossed. Wishing that I could do something stupid again in my life for the one. Gimme strength to believe.

Then i crumpled all the stories which i took over from the sheets and going to burn them and fold the sheets. Then wait for a clean start, however dirty it might get and messy it may be. I donno whether i can tackle but i am ready atleast i know.

Spare time is not FREE!!!

Once upon a time when we were stuck by diseases like leprocy we were initialy started outcasting members who had it and even tried to burn people alive. This is similar to killing a snake or scorpion out of fear. There is nothing wrong in being precautious, But killing the people is not like killing animals. Humans will never turn back and bite you even after saving them like snakes.

And now when we look at that after coming so far from the times when it actually happened, we didn’t change at all. Now also we show the same level of discrepancy and hatred or fear towards that person. But the only difference is, now it is not leprosy it is AIDS.

Getting AIDS is not a big deal at all. Every day lot of people knowingly or unknowingly are being victimized. And the sad part is they don’t know that they are infected, unlike leprosy where the symptoms are visible.

Now we are so badly stigmatized in the ways we think. That people get HIV or AIDS because of sex. and everybody believes that it is bad to talk about sex in India. They never educate a citizen properly and they all end up in having their own assumptions based on the prejudices they built around them. That is directly related to the society around that person and the health of the society. That in most of the cases is in bad state.

Due to this HIV people are thrown out or else hidden. There is saying that “Family matters must be kept secret while the health related details to be shared”. But now we follow it vice-versa. When you are tested positive people wickedly or sarcastically say that you have got it because of your playboy status or what ever and those are the people who throw you out of their circles.

Once being a social outcast and we humans being social people the person will eventually succumb to depression and die rather than of disease. The generations are changing and we are becoming meaner rather than more emotionally bonded to each other. Running the mills where achieving something takes forever which never lets us achieve something for a person with whom we interact.

Show concern to your fellow beings. It can be cancer or aids or anything. a phone call or occasional visits at the cost of your salary or leaves will help their recovery and they will have good memories to cherish. Don’t let the world around you suffer and think that you are having a better life. Allocate time for people who are suffering. Having time for people and sharing and distributing love is not gonna hurt you. Stop running the mill help others and stop being a victim of societal stigmas.

What is correct with us?

We are always good with what is wrong with us or society and everything else. We are just not graceful to know how lucky we are, to have those special virtues to survive in the society.

How we tackled women empowerment is still an eye opener thing that I noticed. We still can accept women who earn less and as a wife. We [When I speak We it is society] are OK with our wives or sisters to earn more than us. Forget Earning we even let them Learn more than men. And always marry them to a guy who Learned and Earned a lot than them.

Marriage is such a soul mate thing now a days. Now we don’t have dowry at all, we have is token of love and affection. Arranged marriages which used to bitter business deals in olden days, now sugar coated. How Sweet !!

Shopping is a nice thing now a days. We shop for lot of reasons and we do show case that stuff in our homes to everyone. Similarly we get married and showcase each other for a year or so then get fed up or succumb to the partner’s choice or better have kids with no adoptions but helping in keeping the nation young.

Surprised to see women not celebrating birthdays because their husband is not there, I don’t get it?? Your beloved ne is not there that doesn’t meant that you need to sit and mourn or what??? You should have celebrated your past 20 or 25 birthdays without your husband, that’s why I understand this mourning is acceptable.

Emotional need and emotional baggage go in tandem, You should carry less so the need will be less. We always contradict the above statement, as we are from old school. How emotional we are to carry the dead weight. We believe in traditions for sure.

People when they marry, how unbiased they think, I still can’t imagine. The height and weight always matters, not in knowledge for sure. Standards should be met that are set by society or else you are filled with guilt.

People work more and earn the same as inflation is high. Now lot of people don’t know what to do when they are retired which is weird. Some still work rather than doing pursuing something. How down to earth we are. I here by to conclude that machines can never over take us. As we are machines. Now I Can sleep properly that the thought of not being ruled by machines.

We always embrace the change by deceiving it. By never changing in the ideals, but by always changing the appearance of the stands we take. How thoughtful and imaginative we are.

Adopt a kid if you have one. Or else adopt two and avoid having one. Believe in your gut feeling and I am not talking about you narcissists’ because I know what reply you are going to give.

When I started searching..

First of all why I started searching for something is, because in movies which run in multiplexes because ppl who watch them are in a zone to have time and afford the concept of serching something. In those movies they say that you are made for something, and you need to search for it. As currently you are ended up into wrong profession with a wrong girl friend or wife [mostly not wife in Indian movies as it is not coenvetional] and even a wrong family. But the only best part is you have good bunch of friends.

I being an engineer got this question in first place. When so many things are wrongly ending up for you why you still have good bunch of friends? The answer is simple that either person is just got bored about the monotonicity in his life and just to hang out he/she choose someone with whom he/she can do what ever he want. When the same person is back to regular life, he/she is happy to lead the life and it is socially and pschologically acceptable. That means friends are use and throw tissue types. Again exceptions doesn’t make rules. If you are not one of them Don’t worry.

OK leave that part, as by stating above statement I might have already stepped on to so many peoples’ toes. Now hero and his gang go to some place which we never went. Which creates the curiosity among the us who watch that movie of trying the same things. And suddenly they realize they may end up doing the same thing, so, they do the same thing but not in the same palce. So, that they are not branded as being a copy cat.

And the worst part is every trip these guys make some one or other will get a soul mate. I don’t get it why they always find on trips rather than in the office or a PG next to them. Which is according to me has more probability of making a relationship. I don't see any chicks on my trips who are single in my country.

MythBusetrs:

Stop cribbing about what you do, because it pays you to make the trip.

If you can’t find a chick in your 95% of life where you live. You can never find one on the trip. Again exceptions doesn’t make rules.

Doing things that you like is good. But, not what they show in movies because you think doing them will make you look like cool guy. And more importantly not at the cost of your family or friends. Eventually you will make them as the people who pays bills for you and you end up having loan rather than love.

Don’t give me risk bullshit. Risk should be calculated. And steve jobs got lucky and he made stuff what people like but not what people need. Dennis ritchie is not lucky he just did what he liked. To be Popular you need to be lucky and know the pulse of people. To stay happy you need to know what you want not at the cost of what you have now.

Stop buying phones/laptops because everyone has it.

Last but not least, Don't marry because it is age[are you a fruit or what], or all your batchmates are getting married[Is it school or what]. And you have a love affair keep it like that. why marry if your love is strong.

My First Dabba

In school it was great to open dabba’s during lunch. So much of sharing and fun it used to be and no regret to eat as it was always stuffed by mom or grandma or aunt. Suddenly the dabbas vanished from my life and replaced by plates which I used to carry in hostels. Though I didn’t notice the change as I was excited by the variety of food I used to get.

Sometimes I make fun of people who say they miss the homely food. I never thought normal people have food at home or eat from the dabbas during lunch. I always thought they were tamed. Eating outside used to be wild cat hunt. Though it is not hunt in actual reality.

From my Intermediate studies I never tasted good food for lunch or to put it in other words never tasted dabba again and always stayed untamed for long time. After ten years of eating rogue food, and evolving into a better cook, never thought of taking a dabba for lunch.

I am used to eat food with dis-interest or anxiety rather than love I used to have. Today when I take a dabba to my office I am feeling weird. I am still eating with the same loss of enthusiasm I had till yesterday. Feeling depressed to eat out of the dabba. Then I figured it out why was I so over reacting even though having good food which I prepared. Food is tasty that is not the issue.

I am missing the USP of dabba concept. I never knew what was inside it even though I knew the items made at home when I was in school. That anticipation used to keep me up and running to my dabba and eat from it. Now I am not having that. And every time I think of the dabba and the content in it. I knew that I am not being able to taste anything else on the canteen menu. This is the same feeling you have when you are engaged to a person and know that you are going to be with the same person though it is for good, in case of dabba, as you get better food everytime you open. In case of a person it’s your choice.

But, here I am missing the USP of dabba which is !!!SURPRISE!!!. Taking up responsibility of what you eat, and knowing that you are going to eat what you cook, is a great deal of responsibility. You have to be prepared for that. And I am prepared as it is for good so will be sticking to it. I am going to open the dabba and eat. Now I am taming myself by opening the dabba.I am no more a wild cat in jungle. I am a lost tamed cat in concrete jungle. Hoping the dabba brings more taste and love.

Let the Dabbas rule.

Identity crisis

All of us know about the zebra in Madagascar. It was happy, crazy one among all the characters who want to try something new. Then suddenly when they visit Africa in the sequel, it faces a identity crisis and it can’t stand the zebra crowd any more being a zebra. Though initially it was happy to see it’s family members slowly the fun fades off. As it is no more having a noticeable identity to brag about.

Most of the Human beings are no different from the zebra herd we have seen in the movie. They all are happy to be with their family but still want not to lose their identity. Now they crave for that extra attention that is what helps most of the people to excel in careers, perform difficult tasks not to please themselves but to quench the urge of being noticed and special.

What they don’t know is eventually all are doing the same thing. So, that they are always in the lime light. [This concept is generalized because most of us follow the same pattern. And exceptions are there but they are not considered for making rules].

Things you notice when people face such crisis of identity and start working towards nullifying it are:

Like having a caller back tune.

Initially having a ring back tune used to be the one that helped you to stand apart from the crowd. Now the difference in having a nice ring back tone and having a weird ring back tone makes you stand apart.

The problem is nobody can never be satisfied with what they have and the mirrors they see themselves are others opinions about them which are prejudiced. People can’t take up with the versatility for long time so eventually they will go back or withdraw and announce that as a new trend.

That’s why until or unless in a relationship if two persons don’t have a strong common point to share they can never stay together. The only way now a day’s keeping a couple together is social pressures rather than the common interests they have. It doesn’t mean that they should share same things from salad to sheets. It is the one strong point that has major share in their lives which keeps the people and bonds together. They may drift apart for some time because of identity crisis, but the strength of the commonality among them keeps the relation alive.

That’s why in our hindu culture [here I am not mentioning only this religion because I know only about this :D] a couple is separated in a year for some duration so that they both know the value of each other and that will keep the relationship health fully high. So, in this period their identity crisis is nullified being separate and they both know the value of each other and respect others uniqueness.

Hope we shall see a better trend in future.

Awesome Mean….

Awesome is used to be just another word in this world. Then suddenly it became LEgendarrryyyyyyyyyy because of Barney and few more people. Today I was googling about the meaning of awesome and its usage. I never thought I will write about a word.

Ok… coming down to the point the word awesome technically or literally means this:

awe·some (ôsm)

adj.

1. Inspiring awe: an awesome thunderstorm.

2. Expressing awe: stood in awesome silence before the ancient ruins.

3. Slang Remarkable; outstanding: "a totally awesome arcade game" (Los Angeles Times).

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awesome·ly adv.

awesome·ness n.

It is an adjective and can be used as adverb or noun too. But recently it’s usage in india has a new meaning which I came to know accidentally. You appreciate someone saying that you are awesome they will feel shy. If you say awesome to a girl in front of her fiancé or would be it may lead to break up as awesome in front of him is like you know I had an affair with her.

If you say it someone in a public meeting then it definitely means you are into her or she is into you. If you keep on saying awesome to appreciate to your female colleagues you are treated as playboy in the office. I never understood when does Awesome became a word that should not be said in public.

My friends always used it as a word to praise somebody not to flirt. I know when to flirt and what to use when you flirt but never thought awesome became a word like that. [Awesome is not equal to u tasted like vanilla]. I still don’t get it how it achieved that status.

With such a progression in the culture, and change in meanings I am left with nothing but use only good, better best only for the coming years. Hope people learn the rightful meaning of what they use. :P. Anyhow unknowingly using this may help you get a false status to keep it up don’t talk much use only high end gre or gmat words you can easily be counted as a guy or girl who is fast in Indian culture. You know what fast means in india.Sometimes using awesome in public makes others think that u r a pervert too... perceptions are pretty dangerous buddy...

I don’t know now the list of non-usable words are piling up… Have fun all….As ignorance is bliss use it for ur own good. Or else try enlightening people.

My 200^th posting needed something like this…