Spare time is not FREE!!!

Once upon a time when we were stuck by diseases like leprocy we were initialy started outcasting members who had it and even tried to burn people alive. This is similar to killing a snake or scorpion out of fear. There is nothing wrong in being precautious, But killing the people is not like killing animals. Humans will never turn back and bite you even after saving them like snakes.

And now when we look at that after coming so far from the times when it actually happened, we didn’t change at all. Now also we show the same level of discrepancy and hatred or fear towards that person. But the only difference is, now it is not leprosy it is AIDS.

Getting AIDS is not a big deal at all. Every day lot of people knowingly or unknowingly are being victimized. And the sad part is they don’t know that they are infected, unlike leprosy where the symptoms are visible.

Now we are so badly stigmatized in the ways we think. That people get HIV or AIDS because of sex. and everybody believes that it is bad to talk about sex in India. They never educate a citizen properly and they all end up in having their own assumptions based on the prejudices they built around them. That is directly related to the society around that person and the health of the society. That in most of the cases is in bad state.

Due to this HIV people are thrown out or else hidden. There is saying that “Family matters must be kept secret while the health related details to be shared”. But now we follow it vice-versa. When you are tested positive people wickedly or sarcastically say that you have got it because of your playboy status or what ever and those are the people who throw you out of their circles.

Once being a social outcast and we humans being social people the person will eventually succumb to depression and die rather than of disease. The generations are changing and we are becoming meaner rather than more emotionally bonded to each other. Running the mills where achieving something takes forever which never lets us achieve something for a person with whom we interact.

Show concern to your fellow beings. It can be cancer or aids or anything. a phone call or occasional visits at the cost of your salary or leaves will help their recovery and they will have good memories to cherish. Don’t let the world around you suffer and think that you are having a better life. Allocate time for people who are suffering. Having time for people and sharing and distributing love is not gonna hurt you. Stop running the mill help others and stop being a victim of societal stigmas.

When I started searching..

First of all why I started searching for something is, because in movies which run in multiplexes because ppl who watch them are in a zone to have time and afford the concept of serching something. In those movies they say that you are made for something, and you need to search for it. As currently you are ended up into wrong profession with a wrong girl friend or wife [mostly not wife in Indian movies as it is not coenvetional] and even a wrong family. But the only best part is you have good bunch of friends.

I being an engineer got this question in first place. When so many things are wrongly ending up for you why you still have good bunch of friends? The answer is simple that either person is just got bored about the monotonicity in his life and just to hang out he/she choose someone with whom he/she can do what ever he want. When the same person is back to regular life, he/she is happy to lead the life and it is socially and pschologically acceptable. That means friends are use and throw tissue types. Again exceptions doesn’t make rules. If you are not one of them Don’t worry.

OK leave that part, as by stating above statement I might have already stepped on to so many peoples’ toes. Now hero and his gang go to some place which we never went. Which creates the curiosity among the us who watch that movie of trying the same things. And suddenly they realize they may end up doing the same thing, so, they do the same thing but not in the same palce. So, that they are not branded as being a copy cat.

And the worst part is every trip these guys make some one or other will get a soul mate. I don’t get it why they always find on trips rather than in the office or a PG next to them. Which is according to me has more probability of making a relationship. I don't see any chicks on my trips who are single in my country.

MythBusetrs:

Stop cribbing about what you do, because it pays you to make the trip.

If you can’t find a chick in your 95% of life where you live. You can never find one on the trip. Again exceptions doesn’t make rules.

Doing things that you like is good. But, not what they show in movies because you think doing them will make you look like cool guy. And more importantly not at the cost of your family or friends. Eventually you will make them as the people who pays bills for you and you end up having loan rather than love.

Don’t give me risk bullshit. Risk should be calculated. And steve jobs got lucky and he made stuff what people like but not what people need. Dennis ritchie is not lucky he just did what he liked. To be Popular you need to be lucky and know the pulse of people. To stay happy you need to know what you want not at the cost of what you have now.

Stop buying phones/laptops because everyone has it.

Last but not least, Don't marry because it is age[are you a fruit or what], or all your batchmates are getting married[Is it school or what]. And you have a love affair keep it like that. why marry if your love is strong.

My First Dabba

In school it was great to open dabba’s during lunch. So much of sharing and fun it used to be and no regret to eat as it was always stuffed by mom or grandma or aunt. Suddenly the dabbas vanished from my life and replaced by plates which I used to carry in hostels. Though I didn’t notice the change as I was excited by the variety of food I used to get.

Sometimes I make fun of people who say they miss the homely food. I never thought normal people have food at home or eat from the dabbas during lunch. I always thought they were tamed. Eating outside used to be wild cat hunt. Though it is not hunt in actual reality.

From my Intermediate studies I never tasted good food for lunch or to put it in other words never tasted dabba again and always stayed untamed for long time. After ten years of eating rogue food, and evolving into a better cook, never thought of taking a dabba for lunch.

I am used to eat food with dis-interest or anxiety rather than love I used to have. Today when I take a dabba to my office I am feeling weird. I am still eating with the same loss of enthusiasm I had till yesterday. Feeling depressed to eat out of the dabba. Then I figured it out why was I so over reacting even though having good food which I prepared. Food is tasty that is not the issue.

I am missing the USP of dabba concept. I never knew what was inside it even though I knew the items made at home when I was in school. That anticipation used to keep me up and running to my dabba and eat from it. Now I am not having that. And every time I think of the dabba and the content in it. I knew that I am not being able to taste anything else on the canteen menu. This is the same feeling you have when you are engaged to a person and know that you are going to be with the same person though it is for good, in case of dabba, as you get better food everytime you open. In case of a person it’s your choice.

But, here I am missing the USP of dabba which is !!!SURPRISE!!!. Taking up responsibility of what you eat, and knowing that you are going to eat what you cook, is a great deal of responsibility. You have to be prepared for that. And I am prepared as it is for good so will be sticking to it. I am going to open the dabba and eat. Now I am taming myself by opening the dabba.I am no more a wild cat in jungle. I am a lost tamed cat in concrete jungle. Hoping the dabba brings more taste and love.

Let the Dabbas rule.

GODs [Good Old Days]

Today was one such day when I have decided to go back to my old and most lovable hobby, which is none other than blogging. Then I was searching for some good topic which I don’t do, but then it stuck to me that when I was in search of a topic I remembered how spontaneous I used to be to when I used to blog.

There was bryan adams summer of 69 playing in background so, this led me to say to myself that “those good old days”. Then started wondering, when you say those were the good old days, what did you meant exactly? Does these days you are living now are not so good to cherish about or the days you are living are way better or these are the best days you are having compared to old days. When you have said “GODs” they included the most embarrassing moment to most heart-warming ones.

Such varying emotional experiences are always happening. So why can’t we say or at least feel that we are having a good time. In general most people when they use the phrase “GODs” they never cherish their current day scenarios, sometimes they are worried about the current ones and dwell in the past saying that they were good compared to now. Again after few years they turn back and say those were the best days because of someone or something, which are currently not so glittering. Even in the worst conditions people always have something to feel good about their existing scenarios and that feeling good about something makes the days good.

This flawed system of ours, where we compare ourselves to feel better is always complicating rather than allowing us to savor the moments where we live. So, all it needs is a slight change in perspective and a little insight into ourselves to see things as they are and how better we are. Keep smiling to make every day a best one. So that you can turn back in life and say Good Old Days in faith that now you are having the best.

When FEAR guides you

I did read the novel state of FEAR. But, today when I woke up lot of things started haunting me. I just realized that FEAR plays a ferocious part in ones life and it did fairly good job in screwing me up.

Now I remember why I pursued higher studies; the fear of not having a job pushed me there but my excelling at that is again driven by the FEAR of failure.

I didn’t ask one of friend out because I feared the end of what ever I have. I never took a chance. We used to go out together have our dental fillings and roam around. Even the flower knows that there were sparks flying but I didn’t ask her out. Because of FEAR of rejection;. And now I am still not asking her out Because of FEAR of being late.

This FEAR is the one driving me crazy to work hard to stay ahead in the race. This FEAR of not meeting social standards is making me to run the Treadmill to get a girl. What is this FEAR has done to me?

Why I write my blogs with not being the first person experiencing it? This time the FEAR is me being open book. Then my mind asked Why today you are finding this in your life, when you were happy being driven by FEAR. Yesterday night when I was busy with you know as usual stuff. There were shouting and fight happening between the guys in the shop from where I get a nice wish of good morning and also a nice experience of doing business with them.

But yesterday when some one was hitting those shopwallahs and almost killed them. I didn’t call police FEARing the damage they may cause for having Power [To say precisely mis-use of Power. It is a general notion tat police screw up] that they may spoil the situation it further for them. As I don’t know the facts about the fight [FEAR of no knowledge]. Then I thought of going down and stopping but, I FEARed what if I am picking up the wrong side. So I stayed and watched.

Now my conscience hit me hard and made me agitated telling that I might have gone down atleast stopped the fight without taking sides. This is making me feel guilty and today I end up here writing this, rather than facing those guys, because of FEAR of not doing what is correct.

Now I realized the FEAR in my life and its effect on my life. I have decided to mend the fear to have constructive results. [ I wrote the last line because of FEARing that people think that I FEAR and it is nothing but FEAR of accepting the fact in front of all].

The Fugly Society

Screw the castes that induce cultures, which are formed for the sake of covering their inferiority complex to exceed other caste in some way or other. And these things come out in true form when they do the search for the bride or groom hunt. These bloody people speak everything from helping poor or inter-caste marriages and laud those persons for their guts to break free from this vicious circle.

When it comes to them they won’t do the same thing which they appreciate. All they do is to try to find a better launching pad for career and life in the form of marriage and a secured life for them. Is this the reason people look forward to find another companion.

All these people should watch this Invention of Lying. I have been watching ads in a matrimony, there people’s criteria are weird enuf to get stunned or dumbfounded. I used to read better things in those funny matrimonial e-mails that used to come as forwards.

The new criteria are:

All my family is well educated and is from iits, Harvard and Wharton we are looking for someone in similar lines and good looking. [Wow this whole family has been breeding iitians it seems. Once when they draw the family tree all the fruits and branches will be iits I think. And god damn good looking somebody please define this]

I am a good-looking person, I luv greenery I have passport and driving license and I am ready to fly off. [What are you? All you want to do is escape from the poor back ground of yourself and run away]

My kid has won lot of accolades medals and stood first from the LKG till the end of the career. [What does this criterion meant?]

We hail from a family name of Blah,Blah,Blah. So… Blah blah blah…. We need blah blah blah. [People still living on the name of families. If you have achieved something your name will be enuf rather than ur families.]

Oh my god… Bloody Indian economic basic root is flawed and made everybody to earn money. Now all see money as the high priority one and they think being in IIT IIM or any branded college will help to settle life. They provide knowledge not money when they will understand. Money can’t buy everything [first of all to say this, I should have enough money but I can still say it. That’s the best part of it.]

I don’t know still might be I am offensive this is what I think. Everybody sucks big time. This society sucks real bad. So find a better sucker and settle down. Never try to change anything because it is difficult to stand against.

And stop being stereotypes and make such deals while marrying some one of.